The very use of the word 'dating' brings on anticipation and intrigue. The whole exercise of allowing someone else into a special niche carefully crafted by your psyche spells the need for a buffer. Previously, dating meant 'going steady'.
In modern times, it refers to getting to know someone, who may or may not become the 'special someone'. The sites are designed to enable you to take on a little nonchalant attitude on a date.
The 21st century man or woman is not one to commit on day one. The contemporary lot needs time and expects to have a choice. It is for this very reason that exclusive dating sites have been organized.
The nervousness and excitement that comes along with meeting someone of the opposite sex, in a pre-arranged meeting, is an experience that is rare to forget. Boys and girls, men and women today have hectic lifestyles and leave the arrangements to the professionals.
For a small fee, the matchmaking services provide access to chat rooms and photo displays and email IDs. With detailed information available via Internet surveys, it becomes much easier to plan a date with someone you would like to get to know.
Of course, when meeting a person for the first time face to face, other shades of the person's character will unfold. However, the faceless nature of the online forum or the 'stranger' tag does not in any way hamper the 'first experience'.
Considering the use of technology for something as personal as speed dating, there are a few things to be kept in mind prior to waltzing off on the first date or subsequent ones with strangers.
When meeting someone through an online forum for the first time, you should avoid divulging your residential address for a formal pick-up. Later on, if the two of you really hit it off, you could take the sharing of sensitive information a step further.
You not knowing the person enough is ample reason to meet in a public place. It is good and wise to have other people in close proximity, even though they too might be strangers. You could also plan a group outing. Plan ahead with friends or a double date to create a comfort zone.
Avoid allowing the person to pay the bill or become extravagant all at once. Share the expenses as far as possible. There is no telling what the other person may have in mind as far as 'pay back' is concerned. It is better to pay half the bill and not feel any obligation at all.
You should be careful while wining and dining on your first date. Avoid alcohol completely. It is known to hamper judgment and lessen inhibition. It is wise to keep the person and his or her actions visible at all times, especially if a visit to a pub prior to dinner is on the cards.
Ensure that you use your own transportation. This would avoid a terrible 'left in the lurch' situation. It pays well to ensure that the vehicle has enough gas. You should never let your guard down and assume that a man or woman is safe by claim.
Adult as well as teen dating online is safe if you follow your instinct. If you don't feel right about something, just play safe.