As a single mom, you must face a lot of questions like if it is all right to date, whether you should tell your children about it, whether you should introduce them to your date, and many such dilemmas. Here are some tips that may answer some of these doubts.
Look for a Partner, not a Dad for the Kids
When they go out on dates, many single mothers start looking for men who possess qualities of a good father instead of someone whom they feel attracted to. Although there is no harm if the man possesses these qualities, it cannot be the starting point of dating or getting to know someone. Follow your instincts and if something has to happen, it will.
Let the Relationship Progress Naturally
Usually, single mothers are confused about whether to introduce their date to their children. To allay such doubts, do not bring home every guy you date as it can get very perplexing for growing children. Wait until the initial attraction translates into something concrete or until you decide to date each other exclusively.
Your children might even resent this new guy as they will have to share you with him. Keep communication with your kids and your date open, and give everyone time to get accustomed to the new situation.
Communicate in case of a Break-up
It is not necessary that all relationships will be successful. You might enter into a serious relationship with someone, bring him home, introduce him to your kids, and when they get accustomed to having him around, you may have second thoughts about the relationship.
In such a case, explain to the kids that you are going to break up with him and that he will no longer be a part of your family. They can take it to heart, so it is important to make them understand that changes are a part of life and that you will love them and be a constant in their life irrespective of who comes and goes.
When it comes to dating and relationships, there are no concrete rules. Whether you want a casual or serious relationship is strictly your choice.