Getting Back Together After a Breakup

Getting Back Together After a Breakup - Is it a Good Idea?

Realized that breaking up wasn't the right way out? Let us see some things that you need to keep in mind if you're contemplating getting back with your ex.
LoveBondings Staff
Last Updated: Oct 6, 2017
While many may think that getting back together after breaking up with someone is totally crazy, it is also true that it's only the two people in the situation who can truly decide whether it is a good idea or not. People break up over silly things, people break up over serious things. There are some who run a mile in the opposite direction when their ex is mentioned, and there are those who still have that little something in them, that tells them that they still want to be with the person they broke up with. For the latter, here are some things that you need to ask yourself before you go back to the person you just left.

Do You Really Want to?

It is perfectly natural to feel lonely and lost without the person you were used to for quite some time, but do you think that the only solution is getting back with your ex? It may or may not be, but you have to take a long, hard look at yourself, and analyze whether you really want to re-invest your time in the person. If you broke up for something that cannot be repaired, then you might just end up hurting yourself again. On the other hand, if your breakup was over something petty, or something that can be worked upon, then why not?

Are You Willing to Let Go?

You may have made up your mind to get back with your ex, but you need to remember that you broke with him or her for a reason. However silly or serious that reason is, are you willing to let go of things that happened in the past and start afresh? He or she is most likely still the same person, so are you prepared to put yourself through all the pain and anguish that caused your breakup, again? Reconciling differences and forgiving someone is much much more difficult, than talking or writing about it. Are you ready to do that?

Are you Prepared for a Replay?

Not to sound pessimistic, but what if things end up the same way they did the first time? Are you prepared for it? Stress in a relationship can physically and mentally drain a person, as you're probably well aware. It needs a lot of determination and faith, to make yourself go through all that once again. No matter how 'fresh' you start over, there is no guarantee that you won't end up in a similar situation that prompted you to break up. So think, do you have it in you to visit all those places again?

If your Answer is Yes ...
  • ... you have proved to yourself that you are totally devoted and resolute to make your relationship work.
  • ... broach the subject with your ex. Proper timing is essential for this. Doing it immediately after the breakup (especially if it was because of something you said or did) is not advisable. He or she is probably reeling from the shock or anger, and may feel even more stubborn to turn you down.
  • ... make a promise to yourself that you will try to mend the relationship in every way you can. You love this person, show them that you are worth their trust, faith, love, and loyalty.
  • ... let go of the anger, frustration, jealousy, and all other negative feelings that were associated with the breakup. Adopt a positive outlook, and show this person that you are indeed trying to work on your flaws. When he or she sees your efforts, they will be compelled to take a look at themselves too.
While doing the above does not guarantee that you will definitely get back together with your ex, it is worth a try, don't you think? If you're committed to making your relationship work, then nothing can stop you. Be true to yourself and your partner, communicate clearly, and the rest will be taken care of.