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I'd Like a Marriage License, Please?

Reasons Why a Marriage License Should be Earned and Not Bought

Do you think that there should be a better screening process before people are allowed to get married?
LoveBondings Staff
Last Updated: Nov 28, 2018
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All you need to get married these days is ID, a couple witnesses, and maybe a little blood. Get married in a courtroom, go through the process of filling out the appropriate paperwork, a couple of weeks, a ceremony, and then it's done. You have a license to be married. It is certainly not that easy.
Premarital counseling is a must for Christian marriages, if they want their Pastor to perform the ceremony. If the counseling didn't work out, the Pastor would advise the couple not to get married, or at least to wait. There must have been such cases like that. Outside the religious sector, how much really is required for a couple to be allowed to marry?
Here is the Problem
There are a lot of emotions involved in relationships. One of them, often times, is impulse. People who just can't want to get married because they 'love each other so much,' are in danger of getting into a commitment that doesn't work out anywhere near the way they had planned.
Infatuation is all too often misconstrued as love, and better judgment is often clouded with heart-struck feelings. Getting married without knowing the good, bad, and ugly is a major no-no, but the system of obtaining a marriage license doesn't slow things down nearly enough for people to think twice and get a level head about that commitment.
Relationships need to be tested. The film License to Wed with Robin Williams is an incredibly humorous example of what it means. If there has never been conflict, or a challenging time in a relationship, or a period of time without sex (if you have had it already), then it isn't possible to have a realistic impression of how your marriage will be.
Life has ups and downs. If your relationship has always been on the up and up, or has more downs than you can count, marriage can wait. Forever is a long time, and if you are considering marriage, it is important to be realistic about your relationship.
Feelings are nice, but they hardly pay the rent (or mortgage). What about children? Do you agree on how many to have, if at all? You can fall for anyone, but that doesn't mean you have the same outlook on life or the same views about what marriage really means.
Expectations have to be laid out on the table at least as far as money, sex, and children. A majority of marital disagreements stem from those three subjects, so it is crucial that you know each other's views well in those areas.
Is there any way to change the system? There are way too many people getting married and then getting divorced. We have been trying to think of a way that unnecessary divorce can be prevented.
Maybe people should be required to pass a premarital course that can assess their skills in working together as a team, knowing each other well where it counts, and effective conflict resolution.
Another part of the course could be a list of expectations in marriage and how well they understand each other's expectations. It might also be a good idea to discuss long-term goals and plans to see if they really want to be in the same place down the road.
If people understood better what marriage is supposed to be like, there would be a much lower divorce rate. Some people should slow down and really make sure that they have a solid relationship that has the potential to grow over a lifetime. Or maybe everyone should just find a minister like the one in License to Wed before they tie the knot!