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Improve Your Observational Skills: How to Know if He is the One?

Deepa Kartha Jan 5, 2019
If you want to take things ahead in your relationship, but if you wonder if he really is the 'One', you need to introspect your feelings..
When it comes to your relationship, you need to ask yourself some questions to see if the guy you are dating is really the one meant for you, or not. The questions you ask are very basic, but they help in giving you clarity about your entire relationship.
During the course of answering these questions, if you realize that he is the one, then you know that the choice you have made is the right one. Here are a few points that you need to think about, and answer truthfully, in the quest of determining if the guy you are dating is your soulmate or not.

Can You Talk Freely About Your Feelings?

Many women have a tendency to overlook important factors like mutual trust, and comfort level, while in a relationship. There are external factors that always creep up and cause problems between couples.
Think about all the times you have fought, and see if you can trust your partner even after the quarrels you two have had. Regardless of whether the both of you fight or not, retrospect on the given questions.
Are you comfortable with telling him each and every little thing about your feelings? Will you always be comfortable with him, and do you trust him? Is he the friend you need him to be, or the shoulder to cry on when you are sad?
If you can answer all these questions to yourself with absolute conviction, then you know if he is really the one meant for you or not.

Are You Really Happy?

The first and most important thing you should ask yourself, is whether you are really happy being in the relationship or not. Each individual has a different personality, attitude, and motive in life. You need to know if you are happy with him, and vice versa. 
Does he make you smile when things are going really bad for you? When you think about him, do you still have that goofy smile on your face? Are you proud to call him your boyfriend? If you are truly happy with him, then just let go of all your apprehensions regarding your relationship, and take the big leap.

Does He Respect You?

Respect is the most important aspect of a relationship. Does he respect you? Do you respect him? He may love you a lot, but if he does not treat you like an equal, then you need to reconsider your relationship. 
Why? Because, in every relationship, each party is an equal, no one is above the other. So if he completely disregards your suggestions, decisions, views, beliefs, opinions, etc. then you know that he does not respect you, and is not the right one meant for you.
Apart from the given factors, some other things that you should consider before taking your relationship ahead, are whether your fights are rational, have you gone through a series of breakups and patch ups with him, can you accept him with his faults, has he ever seen hard times with you, etc.
Seeking positive answers for these questions, can help you find an answer. So, think objectively about these questions and you will definitely be able to make the right decision.