Soon they realize that they are not giving their hundred percent to each other; they miss the enjoyment and the thrill of romance they had shared in the past. The husband feels left out as he finds his wife worrying only about the kids. Because in most of the cases it is the woman who pays detailed attention to the life and progress of her kids.
A Few Rules Would Make Things Work
The day becomes busy with kids around, and you may not get time to spend with each other. Setting some rules would help ease things, rules like going out for a date once or twice in week, 'communicating' about your day daily, etc., The dating part is of huge significance in a marriage too. With children around it is difficult to spend time like earlier.
Prioritize and Talk it Out
Understand your partner's priorities and decide your course of action based on it. Talk about your expectations from each other; this can be concerning about sex, career, sharing of household responsibilities etc.
This will help you better understand your spouse and make things smooth without any fights due to lack of attention, misunderstandings, etc. Communication will make your relationship less complicated and will keep it free from hassles.
Things that Count
There are certain small things, which otherwise seem insignificant, count a lot in your relationship.
- Stay connected through cell phone throughout the day. Send him/her a few romantic messages in the day that would flatter and bring a smile on your spouse's face.
- Considering the timing, plan some outing. This can be when your kids are out for a picnic. Either ways, you can spend time together by joining some class, or going to the gym together.
- Help your wife in the kitchen, and cook meals together. This way you will get to spend time with each other apart from having fun together.
- Writing a letter is also a good way to keep the romance alive. Convey your spouse how much you love him/her, and that being with him/her has been your best blessing in life.
These were some ways to keep your marital romance alive after having kids. Your kids are your blessing and also your responsibility.