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Letting Go of a Relationship

Aastha Dogra Mar 12, 2019
Letting go of a relationship and allowing yourself to heal emotionally requires strength, time, and patience.
How do you walk away from someone you love
And take the road of friend;
Can you reroute the course you have taken
And start over once again?
I don't really want to let you go
But inside me I know I must;
The times we've loved . . . the times you've left
My heart says stay . . . but it's my mind I must trust.
We have shared so much together
Laughter . . . fun times . . . tears;
Yet sometimes we can't turn back time
We must walk away, and allow ourselves to heal.
I know one day you will be happy
And your soulmate you will find;
I know we each have one out there
Even if for now . . . only in our minds.
May life be gentle with you
May God's best come your way;
And on some quiet tomorrow
You will realize things were better this way

by Judy Burnette
It takes days or sometimes even months before a person finally moves on in life. It takes a lot of emotional strength and courage to find a life without someone whom you once referred to as your "better half".
Any amount of advice that we might get, by reading or talking to our friends, cannot mend a broken heart, but yes it can certainly make us feel a little better. Facing the reality as soon as one can and making some hard decisions is something one should strive for.

Let Out Your Emotions

"We can never turn back the pages of time, though we may wish to relive a happy moment, or say goodbye just one last time, we never can, because the sands of time continue to fall, and we can't turn the hourglass over." - Unknown
For healing a broken heart, face yourself - do not stay in an illusion that he or she is going to come back. If you have really been in love, you will find yourself in the midst of numerous emotions.
You might be angry, feel cheated especially if the other person has betrayed you in some way. You may even feel like crying at times. Do not keep your feelings bottled inside.
Talk about them to your best friend or sister or anybody you trust and are not scared to show your vulnerability to. 
You can also pour all your emotions in a diary. Coming to terms with your feelings is one of the most important steps to let go.

Do not Blame Yourself

Often, people who have been through a break-up, tend to blame themselves for the relationship going sour. If both of you feel the same, it is natural.
The main thing to remember when having such feelings is that your relationship worked before because both of you "made it happen". Now it's dysfunctional because both of you stopped working at the issues.

Have a Good Time

Stay in the company of happy and positive people. Think of all your friends, relatives, acquaintances whose company you enjoy. Laughter is the best medicine. So share a few laughs with the people you like and it will help you a lot in getting over a breakup.

Cut all Contacts

Do not try to contact your ex, however much you are missing them. A break-up is a final cut. Do not ask your common friends about him/her. Do not try to find out whether he/she is dating again or not. 
Here are some quotes that can inspire you.

"There's no need to miss someone from your past - there's a reason they didn't make it to your future" - Unknown

"Some of us think holding on makes us strong, but sometimes, it is letting go." - Hermann Hesse

Move on

Start seeing someone again. And when you do that, keep things casual. Do not fall into a rebound relationship. Along with letting go of your ex, it's time to let go of all your fears and reservations too. 
Have fun; do whatever you missed doing when you were single. Enjoy your freedom. In the words of Tom Stoppard, "Every exit is an entry somewhere", so enter the dating scene again.
Letting go of a relationship is not easy. Even more difficult is to start trusting someone again. The idea of being on your own may scare a whole lot of people. The thing to remember when dealing with all these emotions is - whatever happens, happens for the better. 
Cherish the good times that you had with your ex and look forward to creating a happy and fulfilling life; as a popular saying goes, "Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened."