This information is aimed at giving some much-needed advice to many, who have reached crossroads in their relationship, and are forced to make a choice of breaking up, which is always tough to deal with.
Are you one of those souls, who is in a relationship, that has hit choppy waters and are thinking about quitting? There must be a lot of confusion, guilt, and anxiety about making this decision. We will help you put things into a clearer perspective.
What Makes a Relationship Work?
It is invariably a great experience to be in a relationship. They are also a lot of hard work. The 'happily ever after' ending happens only in fairy tales. What fun would there be in a relationship, without the occasional tiffs and disagreements? They are opportunities to know each other better.
What are the odds of two different people, with their different experiences, likes, dislikes, ambitions, and beliefs coming together and forging a relationship of a lifetime? Well, the odds are stacked very high indeed.
Still, how do people have such great relationships? Are they perfectly matched? Believe me, there is nothing like a perfect match. Perfection, first of all is boring and there is nothing like the ideal match.
A great relationship is forged, through mutual respect, tolerance for shortcomings of each other, understanding, and with that important ingredient called unconditional love.
Most importantly, a healthy relationship has unconditional love from both sides. It can't be that one goes on sacrificing and compromising for the other out of love and the other does not. The feeling has to be mutual. That is what makes a relationship work.
Advice for the Undecided
Nobody can advise you in this situation. It is a matter between you two. If you are in a conundrum about whether to break up or not, ask yourself the following questions, which may help you arrive at a decision.
If the laughter has died out and its place has been taken up by increasingly bitter sarcasm, it's time to quit, for the good of both.
Do you Feel Suffocated?
It happens sometimes that your boyfriend or girlfriend doesn't give you a lot of space. You do not get time to spend with your friends and family. Yes, your boyfriend or girlfriend is the most important person in your life, but there are other people also, for you to take care of.
If your partner does not realize this and wants you all for himself or herself, life is eventually going to be very difficult.
Is there Constant Bickering?
Is there constant bickering between you two? Do you have to constantly remind and compare how much each one of you is doing for the other? It is a sign of fundamental dissatisfaction. You should discuss and talk with each other. Be frank with each other, that helps.
If you are in an abusive relationship, and you are not respected by your partner, it's time for a breakup. There need not be any second thoughts in this case.
Are You Hanging in There, Running away From Guilt?
Are you still in this relationship because you feel that if you break up, your boyfriend and girlfriend will break down? That is, if you are hanging in there because you can't see him or her hurt, then let me tell you, don't do it.
Neither you, nor your partner are going to be happy. Yes, if you break up, it will hurt, but only once. It is tough, but it must be done. Remember, love is a feeling that cannot be manufactured, if it's there, it's there. If it's not, you cannot do anything about it.
It is that feeling which you get, when you see him or her every time. Your heart skips a beat and you feel that you can take on anything in life till this person is with you. If that feeling is not there, it is over.
This was some introspective advice for you. Hope it helps you to get in touch with your feelings and make an honest decision. Ending a relationship is always a tough decision and one of the most painful ones ever. However, sometimes it must be taken for the good of both. Sometimes, pain is inevitable. It strengthens you and teaches a whole lot.