10 Practical Rules You Should Follow to Keep Your Marriage Happy

10 Rules to Keep your Marriage Happy
One of the golden rules of a happy and successful marriage is to love your partner as yourself. But how can someone do that? Read the Buzzle article to learn and understand 10 practical rules.
No matter who you are, where you go, and what you do, humankind has created many rules and regulations in the society we live in. We need them to properly relate to each other in traffic, in school, at work, and basically anywhere. Can you imagine what the traffic scene would be without all the rules? Or how about the airplanes flying without any flight order? Most of us will admit that it will create a massive chaos throughout the entire world.

All that is true, but what do rules have anything to do with marriage? Who gets to establish the right rules for it? Well, who made the rules for the traffic? The inventors of cars! In the same way, the Inventor of marriage, namely God, gave the rules for a happy marriage. Yes, He made man and woman different to complement each other; not to compete against each other. But often times, in our competitive society, we tend to forget that marriage doesn't work best if we apply competition.

The Idea Behind it All

Jesus, the Son of God, said that the greatest commandment of them all is to love your neighbor as you love yourself. When applying this commandment to marriage, it means to love your spouse as you love yourself. That implies putting his/her wishes above yours; giving in to make the other happy. Someone once said that if you marry because you want your partner to make you happy, you married for the wrong reason. On the other hand, the correct reason should be to marry so that you could make your partner happy. If you truly love him/her, you want to see happiness in his/her eyes and heart, right?

The surprising thing though is that in the process of pleasing your spouse, you'll be the happy one! Unexpected, isn't it? However, loving your spouse applies to both sides; you have to keep in mind that respect is a must. I want to emphasize the fact that pleasing your spouse does not mean a "puppy - master" relationship! No, in fact, such a relationship lacks respect; a fact that sooner or later will lead to unwanted consequences.

'Rules' to Follow

Women and men are equally valued in the eyes of God; yes, they may have distinct roles to play. However, respect is the main ingredient for any couple to be truly happy and content with one another. Here are 10 Biblical rules that you can follow in order to enjoy a happy marriage. All the verses are taken from the English Standard Version.

1. Never bring up mistakes of the past.
Stop criticizing others or it will come back on you. If you forgive others, you will be forgiven

Judge not, and you will not be judged; condemn not, and you will not be condemned; forgive, and you will be forgiven;
― Luke 6:37

2. Neglect the whole world rather than each other.
And how do you benefit if you gain the whole world but lose your own soul in the process?

For what does it profit a man to gain the whole world and forfeit his soul?
― Mark 8:36

3. Never go to sleep with an argument unsettled. And don't sin by letting anger gain control over you. Don't let the sun go down while you are still angry.

Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger,
― Ephesians 4:26

4. At least once a day, try to say something complimentary to your spouse. Gentle words bring life and health; a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit.

A gentle tongue is a tree of life, but perverseness in it breaks the spirit.
― Proverbs 15:4

5. Never meet without an affectionate welcome.

Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth!
For your love is better than wine;

― Song of Solomon 1:2

6. "For richer or poorer" - rejoice in every moment that God has given you together. A bowl of soup with someone you love is better than steak with someone you hate.

Better is a dinner of herbs where love is than a fattened ox and hatred with it.
― Proverbs 15:17

7.If you have a choice between making yourself or your mate look good, choose your mate. Do not withhold good from those who deserve it when it's in your power to help them.

Do not withhold good from those to whom it is due, when it is in your power to do it.
― Proverbs 3:27

8.If they're breathing, your mate will eventually offend you. Learn to forgive.
I am warning you, if another believer sins, rebuke him; then if he repents, forgive him. Even if he wrongs you seven times a day and each time turns again and asks forgiveness, forgive him.

Pay attention to yourselves! If your brother sins, rebuke him, and if he repents, forgive him,
and if he sins against you seven times in the day, and turns to you seven times, saying, 'I repent,' you must forgive him.

― Luke 17:3-4

9.Don't use faith, the Bible, or God as a hammer. God did not send His Son into the world to condemn it, but to save it.

For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through him.
― John 3:17

10. Let love be your guidepost. Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. Love does not demand its own way. Love is not irritable and it keeps no record of when it has been wronged.

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant
or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;

― 1 Corinthians 13:4-5
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