Well if you thought dating was tough then perhaps speed dating will seem like a daunting task for you. Well, it isn't as bad as you think! People who are planning to try their luck at speed dating should remember that it is actually a fun way to explore the possibility of a potential relationship. Just like normal dating, it requires a little bit of preparation, presence of mind and of course your good judgment.
Speed dating as the name suggests, is a way of meeting new people while sitting across from them and asking them quick but well thought out questions that one needs to be prepared with beforehand. The men / women keep shuffling from one table to the next, given about a minute each to exchange questions that are meaningful.
Tips for Beginners
Because you haven't done this before, speed dating can naturally get you nail biting. Nothing to fret about here. Just remember that this is like any other kind of social get-up where people want to get to know each other, and possibly find someone worth dating. Let's see what important tips need to be borne in mind.
- Look out for a speed dating event that's being organized at a decent venue, by a credible organizer.
- Do not feel shy/embarrassed about attending a speed dating event. Go for it with a positive frame of mind.
- Dress up well for the occasion, wear a perfume/cologne that has a mild yet pleasing fragrance.
- Prepare in advance, by having a rough idea about the kind of questions you want to ask your dates.
- Avoid racist or sexist questions and comments that can offend people.
- Most importantly be calm, confident and comfortable in your own skin.
Knowing what questions to ask in a limited time is very important. You can't fumble up or talk excessively. The questions you ask have to be to the point, relevant, and tactful.
Have you been married before? / Ever been divorced? (If yes, then ask - Got any kids?)
Do you live alone or with roommates / your parents?
What's your job like?
What do you do when you're not working?
What is your take on marriage?
Do you see yourself having kids one day?
What is your idea of fun over the weekend?
If we were going on a date, what would we do?
Are you an only child?
Do you smoke / drink often?
Where did you grow up?
What did you major in, in college?
Is this your first time speed dating?
Are you looking for something casual or serious?
Are you religious or spiritual? (You could ask this in another way like - So which religion do you follow?)
Does it bother you if a person is not from the same faith or caste?
Are you a Republican or Democrat? (If this somehow matters to you)
Would you ever consider moving away if you had to?
What do you hope to achieve in the next five years?
Do you work long hours?
Does me being a vegan bother you? (It is good to ask this if you want him / her to adjust to this fact)
For how long did your previous relationship last?
Why haven't you been seeing anyone for so long? (If they haven't dated in a while)
Are you close to either / both of your parents?
Is there anything else that I need to know about? (In case you find yourself without any more questions; you can end your time with the opposite person with this one)
These questions can give you a fair idea of what sort of areas need to be addressed when meeting someone for the first time. You can also form questions of your own using the above for guidance.