How do you keep a marriage from breaking apart? What is the secret to a long, happily married life? What are the fundamental pillars of a healthy relationship? Well, these are the questions that have been the driving force behind plenty of bestselling relationship advice books and bibles.
Not just books and magazines, but even our daily newspapers (or at least the weekend editions) are filled with marriage counseling columns, agony aunt advice, and what not. Based on what we have read so far, here is a list.
Five Tips to a Successful Marriage
However, a marriage without love will never last. It is the foundation of a relationship upon which all other things are eventually built.
Communication should be two-way and it should be in a way in which your partner is able to understand what it is, that you want to convey. Communication need not always be verbal. Often a slight touch, or a moment of eye contact can say much more than what a hundred words probably could.
However, as the newness or the shine begins to wear off, the flame slowly but surely, begins to weaken and before you realize it, it gets doused. The trick here is to keep re-inventing yourself as a couple and to reignite the spark or flame whenever necessary.
Infuse a bit of life into your marriage if you find it heading towards a plateau. The graph should always rise, never should it remain lifeless at a plateau, and NEVER should it drop down.
- Never leave a major fight unresolved and sleep over it, or storm out of the house. It will just hide in the far corner of your mind, multiply quietly like a virus, and resurface at a later point of time causing more damage. Always try to settle your arguments or fights there and then itself.
- Do not take each other for granted. This tends to happen quite regularly as the years pile up. Appreciate every small thing that your partner does for you and express gratitude towards him/her. It will go a long way in strengthening and maintaining the bond between the two of you.
These were a few tips that can help in a marriage become successful. Here's our concise take on it as a conclusion - a huge dollop of love, with a generous sprinkling of understanding, and two spoons of communication ... all served on a plate of care!