Many of us spend days, even years, finding the one person who we think would be right for us, our perfect soulmate. However, as the relationship with the so-called "soulmate" progresses, it is strange that the subtle quirks that you liked so much about him/her have become so "toe-curlingly" annoying.
The result: broken hearts, pain, and not to forget the high rates of divorce. As much as we may try to find it elsewhere, the key to successful and healthy relationships lie within us. Here are some tips that you can use to build a solid foundation and find the depth in your relationships to make it last a lifetime.
Tips for a Successful Relationship
Most people are stuck in a bad relationship just because they feel they cannot get anyone better. Thus, it is a good idea to probe into your partner's mind questioning simple things like interests, hobbies, career goals. This will make it easier for you to understand the person and whether you want to spend your life with him or her.
While most people are good at venting out their emotions and feelings, only a handful of people actually LISTEN. Hear out what your partner has to say, understand his or her decisions, and then put forth your viewpoint. Encouraging your partner to listen and listening when he or she has something to say, makes the other person feel appreciated and special.
However, it is important to find time for one another. Remember the time when you fell in love. The urgency and need to meet the other person may not be sustainable in the long run, but spending time on a daily basis is just as important one year down the line as it was when you first fell head over heels in love with him or her.
Arguing is just a part of human nature and is a way of flexing individual personalities. However, it is a good idea to understand your limits in an argument. Physical and verbal abuse is a crime and should not be resorted to in any circumstance.
While some may be easier to accept, others may be difficult for a couple to adjust to. However, remember that in every successful relationship adapting to changes and accepting them is a part of our lives.
While most of these relationship tips might sound quite familiar, in our everyday rat race we forget to implement them. The result is a relationship breakup and a host of other issues. So spend time together, laugh, cry, and love each other, and in no time you too will be in a successful, loving relationship that lasts a lifetime. Good Luck!