To all aspiring couples, well, before you guys plan to get hitched, take time to think and re-think your decision to tie the knot. There are a lot of things couples should do before getting married, because these will make things easy and clear, for this decision involves spending one's entire life with someone. And especially the ladies, make your decision without starring at "YOUR PROPOSAL RING"; trust me, it helps. Remember diamonds are materialistic, trust and love are the actual jewels of life.
Spend some quality time together
It's important for couples to spend time together. If it's a long-distance relationship, then you can always opt for online interaction. And if you live nearby, then plan for dates and have dinner or lunch together. Even opting for moving in for a few weeks will help you understand how things will work out after marriage. Similarity and differences in tastes and habits will eventually come up, and it's up to both of you to decide how you handle them.
It's a big no-no for couples to hide debts and loans. Talk it over, and see how you can work it out as a team. Plan your budget, investments, creating accounts, whether maintaining a joint account or having two separate accounts. Plan how you would share the bills and rents. Buying and selling of properties needs to be discussed too.
Open up to your partner's family
It's important as a couple to meet each others' family and friends. Spend time with them, and yeah, routine visits are not required, but make it a point that you meet and get together as a family. It's essential to know your partner's loved ones and close buddies. This will help you socialize and feel comfortable as an individual. With time, you will share a close bond with your spouse's family and gang.
As a couple, before marriage try to understand your partner's faith. You need to decide whether you want to stick to yours or share his/her beliefs. Discuss it and ascertain how important is your faith to you as a person, and how this will affect your child's upbringing. It's important to understand how you will carry it forward as a couple after marriage.
Before marriage, discuss your priorities - work or home. How are you going to cooperate if your partner faces some challenges to achieve his/her dreams? You need to understand and decide your entire role in helping your partner reach his/her goals. There will be times when some compromise and sacrifices will have to be made; but above everything else, it is important to plan how you choose to reach your goal together.
Reveal your true self
Do not leave anything for later! Discuss everything with your partner. All your phobias, secrets, desires, and expectations need to be told and heard. Never linger with secrets or wait for the perfect time, because the perfect time never comes. When you are entrusting your entire life to your partner's care, then it's necessary they accept you the way you are .Your partner needs to be familiar with all your pet peeves, so that, after marriage they know the solution for all your pent up issues.
Discuss family commitments and roles for household chores
Before saying "I do", discuss what will be your obligation towards the family, decide how you plan to spend time with your partner and children. Ways by which you can balance work and home, all the work which you guys will share like doing the dishes, cooking or vacuuming. Even if you are lazy, let your partner know about it. There is a reason why your spouse is called your better half.
Plan for a vacation
Pack your bags and leave together to explore the new feel. Let your hearts "lub dub" to the romance in the air. This will help you guys comprehend how things workout as a couple, this will reveal your taste for what type of travelers you are, whether you are adventure freaks or romantic lovebirds. On the journey, lot of things will be revealed about your reactions under stress and friction so that later on, in life as couple, you know what to do.
Discuss sex and compatibility
Discuss what type of sex life you desire. Whether you prefer an open marriage or a lifelong commitment to one person will suffice you. Talk and plan on how to retain the charm of your marriage. See how your sexual compatibility works out. Sex is not everything for marriage, but both partners should agree on what they consider as satisfactory sex life.
Do not rush into things. Take it slow, because it's a commitment of a lifetime. So, talk your heart out and if you seem to agree to most things, then you are ready to walk the aisle. Remember, marriage is not easy, but always find a way to bounce back to your beloved. Cheers :)