If you are a non-Mormon who is dating a Mormon guy or girl, then this LoveBondings article will provide you with some useful tips and ideas to keep in mind. Keep these in mind and you can successfully capture his/her heart.
If you want to date a Mormon guy or girl, then the best way to meet singles is by visiting the Church. You will get to mingle with a lot of new people, and who knows, maybe you will also find the guy or girl of your dreams there. You can also attend their singles conferences, or participate in social activities organized by the Church. Another simple and doable option is to go online; there are many LDS dating sites where you can sign up and meet new and interesting people.
Dating is a tricky game. Finding a person with whom your wavelength matches, and around whom you feel you can just be yourself, talk about anything, and not be worried about being judged, is not as easy as the romantic movies and TV soaps make it out to be. But say that you have finally met that cute guy or girl and can’t wait to go out with him/her. Life is suddenly wonderful, and you catch yourself smiling, humming, and happy all the time. However, this guy/girl is a Mormon, or a member of the Church of the Latter-Day Saints, which must have had you wondering whether their religion has some dating etiquette of its own; the answer is yes. Read on to know the dating rules of Mormons, and some tips on how you can make it work with this special guy or girl.
Mormon children are advised, in their religion, to refrain from dating until they are at least 16 years of age. Hence, ensure that the girl or guy you want to date is above 16; although with changing times, some kids may date younger, if your love interest is not keen on going out until 16, then hold off. If you are willing to wait, then well and good; otherwise, it is best to move on. Also, they are encouraged to date in groups and not pair off alone, so if your date insists on the same, then agree politely. If you are not comfortable with the idea, then let him/her go.
Mormons are very particular about dressing. They believe that the body is a temple that needs to be worshiped, and that inner beauty is more important. They are always dressed in decent clothing, and the same is expected of their date. So if you are dating a Mormon guy, always wear knee-length, avoid tiny shorts, mini skirts, short or revealing dresses, plunging necklines, or sleeveless tops. If you are dating a Mormon girl, then always wear a good shirt, jeans or pants, and avoid T-shirts with offensive wording or graphics. Modest dressing is the best policy here.
When out on a date with a Mormon guy or girl, be very decent, courteous, and well-mannered. This means no swearing, loud talking, or making offensive jokes. Your attempts at being funny or lightening the mood may backfire, and your date may be put off. This is a very delicate territory, so tread carefully!
If you like your regular fix of alcohol or nicotine, then dating a Mormon probably isn’t a good idea. They are taught to refrain from smoking, drinking, or experimenting with drugs. They even refrain from tea and coffee. So if you are caffeine junky, be sure that you can adjust to and accept your date’s beliefs before going on a date. If you can’t, then it’s best to move on.
Mormons love to have fun, but they prefer keeping it clean, respectful, and something that everyone can enjoy. Take your date to a club with loud music and an open bar, or an R-rated or violent movie, and the prospects of it going well are daunting. The intention here is to get to know each other and have fun, but if the planned venue makes him/her uncomfortable, then it’s a sure sign that the night will end in disaster. Well, maybe not a total disaster, that is a bit exaggerated. But if he/she does not enjoy the evening or is badly put off, then you might as well forget about a second date.
Mormons follow the law of Chastity; they believe that the intimate act of lovemaking must be saved for after marriage. They must refrain not only from sex, but also passionate kissing or similar physical contact, or any act that arouses such feelings. Again, though the evolving times may have brought about a relaxation in this rule, it is still followed by many youngsters. If the girl or guy you are dating also follows this rule, then respect his/her decision. Do not try to persuade him/her to go against his/her religion and beliefs.
If you are dating a Mormon man or woman, be genuinely interested in their religion. Ask questions, try to find out as much as you can. However, be careful to not ask something that may offend your date. Also don’t ask questions that are too intrusive, or those that you would not like to answer yourself. Do some research of your own as well, so that you know a little more about the person you are dating. Be open-minded; accept that different people have different beliefs, and that they do not always have to match with yours.
Sunday is considered sacred by Mormons, and they do not undertake any entertaining or outdoor activities that result in spending, on that day. If your Mormon boy/girlfriend follows this rule, then do not make any plans on Sunday. Understand that it’s their belief, and make plans for any of the other 6 days instead. There is also a chance that your date may ask you to accompany him/her to the Church. If you are a believer and are willing to go, then well and good. If you are an atheist or a non-believer, then let your date know, and politely decline the invitation.
If you are a Catholic girl dating a Mormon guy, then it may not be an issue with his parents. However, if you are a Catholic guy dating a Mormon girl, then remember that her parents may be averse to it. This is because if your relationship gets serious and you guys get married, then she may have to forgo many of the customs of her religion. So if you feel like you both are getting serious, then talk to your girlfriend in time and sort this issue out.
While meeting his/her parents, be sure to make a good impression. Put your best foot forward; be soft-spoken, courteous, well-mannered, chivalrous, and respectful. Let them see the good in you, and believe that their son or daughter has found a good match.
These were some tips to keep in mind when dating a Mormon guy or girl. Although with the change in times, people may not follow these rules as stringently as before, it is still better to be careful so as to not offend anyone, and you may possibly land up with the love of your life.