Happily Married - Such a Thing DOES Exist!
You should be able to express your feelings and share all your joys, worries, and concerns with your partner in a direct yet appropriate manner so as not to hurt the other's feelings and sensibilities. You see, the naked truth can be bitter at times but it still needs to be conveyed in order to have a clear perspective of the situation.
A clear perspective is quintessential to taking the right decision regarding important matters regarding life, finances, relationships, and family equations. However, communication is not restricted to talking only. You should also be able to carefully listen to your partner.
You should never miss an opportunity to appreciate your partner even for small things such as cooking, cleaning, or taking care of the kids. He/she would always look forward to doing things that make you happy. When appreciation and the willingness to please is mutual, such a marriage is bound to set an example.
Remember, your partner may belonged to a different culture than your family. So, you should be ready to accept his/her views and opinions and respect the differences instead of resenting them. Even if you disagree, you should discuss your differences calmly to understand each other's point of view on the matter.
This will only help you to reach a mutually acceptable and sound decision that neither of you can blame each other for, in case the outcome is not what you expected.
Try to find ways to meet each other halfway in your efforts to keep your relationship wholesome and respectful. If your partner happens to commit any personal or social faux pas, don't panic and don't hurt him/her by using harsh words or offensive action. Rein in that outburst and try to understand why he/she did what he/she did.
Also, find out if the said trespass was intentional or merely an accident. In the latter case, especially, forgive your partner and, instead, discuss with him/her how such a sticky situation may be avoided in the future.
Stay in touch with your sense of humor, have fun and laugh together. It helps to relieve stress and helps you get through a difficult time together, all the time fortifying your emotional bond. Most marriages are romantic in the beginning. As the time passes, the lighthearted romance in the life of a couple gets weighed down by career, chores, and kids.
By adopting these tips, you can make your marriage a healthy and successful affair. While it is true that the divorce rates are going higher with each passing year, it is also true that there are marriages today that still work and almost everyone knows at least one married couple who have stayed married for more than thirty years!
That just goes to show that while the stress of today's fast paced, ambition-fueled life is a deal breaker for matrimonial harmony, some still manage to survive the rapids of relationships and pass the test of long term commitment with flying colors.