While a bold and beautiful girl is a dream for every guy, what attracts them to women is purely a subjective question and presents itself to intense scrutiny and analysis. The complexity in understanding what drives men in relationships is that with age, desires, expectations, and wants of men change. Being a man, I believe that we can be best classified into three age groups by what we find attractive in women as age advances.
In these formative years, men yearn for a complete package - a slim, well-endowed, and beautiful girl. Men mostly get lost in matter over mind during these years. Put forward simply, men hardly know what they want in women in these years.
In this stage, men understand that sex appeal is not the only important thing in a woman. Our mind and heart start looking for someone with whom we can share our life. Before going for that run-away word, commitment, almost every dimension of the girl's personality is analyzed, viz., physical, emotional, mental, spiritual, social, etc., though not necessarily in the same order. The criteria for men who want long-term relationships are different from what men look out for while hooking up in a short-term relationship.
- Middle Age:
Freud has given something for men to ponder about during the middle age, i.e., the mid-life crisis. At this age (40-60 years), instead of making a smooth transition to old age, men tend to get deviated towards extramarital affairs, only to end up creating a mess of their married life.
I know it sound very male chauvinistic, but the complete package is really a turn-on for guys, but we don't over-rate this parameter (at least some of us). This must be equally true for women too, when dating men. We don't want our girl to be a supermodel, but we would be glad if she keeps herself fit and takes good care of her body. It's as simple as that. Dreaming of Hollywood actresses and supermodels would leave us grossly dissatisfied. It is not only the physical looks, but more often the dressing sense that attracts men towards women. Hiding and flaunting physical assets in a subtle way really makes a huge difference in a woman's appearance.
If you ask me, what men find attractive in women besides the physical beauty, then I'd say it is the spiritual depth. We love to listen to you talking, laughing, and expressing yourself. The poise and confidence you show in your personality and the subtle gestures of your eyes, all attract us significantly. But we really don't like dumb girls. On the contrary, we want a woman who is intelligent and can stir our energies to better pursuits than the sole objective of chasing females. An intelligent lady who can really read our minds is a great attraction. Love and care are some other intangible qualities we secretly wish our lady to have in abundance. All alpha males love to be cared and desired for, no matter how many girls are there in the bee-line to woo them. What men like in women is certainly a mix of all the qualities that really matter in life. The real beauty of a woman is in her heart and her outlook towards life. If she is the one who can discuss anything and everything under the sun with you, you know you have got that spark to be together.
Since every individual is unique and has his own perception about healthy relationships, answering the question what men want in a woman is certainly something very personal to each of us. In fact, men often feel better if they're occasionally pampered and assured by their love that she is with him.