The problem with men remains to be...well, we can't live with them nor live without them. Lies only create more chaos in an already disturbed relationship although a few white lies can at times, save it. So, are men natural liars or is it a habit? Here are some viewpoints based on my observations and the different kind of liars I have met so far.
There may be various reasons why a guy would choose to lie to his girlfriend. This brings up one really sweet incident to my mind. One of my good friends, Amanda, never did know how to cook and when she met this really amazing guy and started going steady with him, she decided to whip up a good meal for him.
The other day I happened to bump into her boyfriend so I casually asked him about the evening spent at her place. He told me he was really deep into the relationship though he admitted she sure was a bad cook.
I was appalled thinking that he may have blurted the truth to Amanda but he reassured me saying that he lied and had told her that she is an excellent cook. Well, I guess this man really lied for a reason and it was only because he loved her to a great extent. It left me with a nice feeling all over.
The other day I came across another situation concerning a couple from my group. The girl had worn something that looked like it was dug up from the attic and when she cooed gently to her boyfriend, saying, 'How do I look honey?', I was appalled when her boyfriend said, 'As beautiful as ever!'.
I smiled wondering whether beauty truly lies in the eyes of the beholder or was that guy really lying to keep his girl happy. There are of course many reasons why a man would lie in this instance; it may simply be to keep out of trouble of being nagged by his girlfriend.
Apart from white lies, men also lie probably if they end up being habitual liars. For such men, telling a lie is no big deal; they lie for fun and as a form of entertainment. For them, telling a lie is merely a habit without any malicious intentions.
Well, in that case, it would be difficult to spot a habitual liar although time would reveal the truth. For instance, I knew this person who often pretended to be busy. None of his dates planned at exclusive restaurants ever worked out, there were only false promises saying, 'I'm busy' or the usual, 'I have a very important conference to attend'.
In this case the reason could have been genuine, but there are times I felt lies were being told as a cover up for lack of interest. Whatever, the reason, one can never cover up lies for long. Truth always finds a way out and comes to the surface when a person least expects it to.
Men as well as women lie for various reasons (known to them!). But if you wish to be in a long-lasting relationship, then you need to be truly honest to yourself first and then with your partner. With love and trust as the base, you can then have a healthy relationship that you will certainly cherish forever.