Marriage is a lifelong commitment. Hence, it is best to weigh in the pros and cons of marriage before actually getting married.
A wife is also called ardhangini in Hindi, where ardh means half and angini means body. After marriage, she becomes and remains a part of him and his life. In other words, she is his better half.
Marriage is lifetime commitment that both spouses enter into. They come together in this union with specific dreams and aspirations. It is a process by which two people make their relationship permanent and official. They are bound together with vows that are meant to last a lifetime. Marriage is an institution in which both are equal partners who choose to share their lives together in every aspect.
Many believe marriage to be picture-perfect, like those shown in movies, romantic novels, or even in fairy tales. They forget that life is not a movie or a novel, and that it has its fair share of ups and downs, along with a lot of adjustments and sacrifices from both partners. Those who learn to ride this wave live happily with each other for years and decades. While those who are unable to do so, choose to part ways. There are quite a few pros and cons of marriage that many fail to understand.
Pros and Cons of Marriage
The Vows Say It All
I, take you, to be my (wife/husband),
to have and to hold from this day forward,
for better or for worse,
for richer, for poorer,
in sickness and in health,
to love and to cherish;
from this day forward until death do us part.
❥ Love. If you must marry, marry the person because you love each other. After all, at the end of the day, love is all that matters.
❥ You leave behind your childish or child-like ways of life and become more matured in all aspects of life.
❥ You can expect a whole another level of acceptance, understanding, and love from your spouse, which you cannot expect from others.
❥ A spouse is your best friend for life, partner in crime, baring witness to you, and standing by your side, even when they think you’ve lost your marbles.
❥ He/she is committed, trusted, faithful, dedicated, and a safe person that you can turn to.
❥ (S)he’s the one person with whom you’d like to start your family with.
❥ He/she gives you a feeling of belongingness and of being wanted and needed.
❥ You become a caregiver and are cared for on any given day or night.
❥ After marriage, you are accepted socially, religiously, and become a part of the community.
❥ You can share your responsibilities with your spouse; then be it financial responsibilities or family-related.
❥ A spouse gives you a sense of stability.
❥ If both -you and your spouse- work, you get an added income to split the financial burden. If not, then you have your spouse to manage the household and keep it running smoothly so that you don’t have to do both.
❥ Let’s be honest and call it what it is, parents will grow older and one day, leave our side. Your siblings, children, and friends will have their significant other. They will move on to different states or even countries. But your spouse will be there with you, growing old by your side.
❥ You have a partner for everything, be it to gossip with, a travel buddy, and a dinner date every night. Meaning, you have a permanent date for all social occasions.
❥ The dating scene eventually gets outright boring and monotonous after a while, so the plus point here would be that you never have to sit through another awkward dinner with a stranger.
Cons of Marriage
❥ You cannot date anymore. You are bound to one person and one person only, knowing that there are other fish in the sea. So, no more promiscuity.
❥ Financial expenses increase. You might even have to be the sole breadwinner for the family.
❥ In-laws. Need we say more? You are stuck with a family, with whom you are expected to waste many holidays. This group of people are not very fond of you, and this feeling is mutual. But you are forced to smile, be cordial, make small talk, and pretty much act like you care.
❥ You are no longer independent. You cannot come and go as you please.
❥ You have to live with your spouse’s pet peeves.
❥ Compromising is a way of life once you are married.
❥ You have an extended group of family and friends that you have to associate with on several occasions.
❥ You get tired of keeping life exciting for you and your spouse.
❥ You don’t get space for yourself. You are continuously sharing space with your spouse. Nothing is “yours” anymore; everything is “ours”.
❥ Decisions cannot be individualistic anymore; it too needs to be what is good for the family or both of you.
❥ Fear of a divorce.
Marry for all the right reasons, rather than being pressurized by family, society, or your biological clock. Marriage and the decision to get married is a very personal one, which can and should not be taken lightly.