There is something about older women that generally that entices men. It is gaining firmer ground these days although the vice-versa (old men with younger women) has historically been the more popular age-rift relationship type.
But we see a lot of older women picking younger men (Madonna and Demi Moore being the most prominent recent examples) for a serious relationship, and things often do work out. But married older women? Is that really ever going to work? Does the relationship have any future? What are the relationship issues that can set into such a relationship?
In order to have an attraction between two people, there needs to be a 'fire'. To be made up in part by desire, and in part by dissatisfaction. There is very rarely just one person who initiates such a relationship. It is created in part by both.
What could be more adventurous than having an adulterous relationship with a younger man? In the younger man, they see a lot of qualities which they would have ideally liked in their husbands. Good looks, sexual prowess, desire, and a willingness to fawn upon the older woman with attention and gifts can all drive her towards having an extramarital affair.
Why Men Go For It
Firstly, it is the same thrill. Affairs are decidedly rare, and have a great show-off value. Few men would give up the bragging rights where he can claim to have been able to entice an older, more experienced, and even married woman out of her husband's clutches. It is one of the thrills many men crave for.
Still other men feel that they are more compatible with these older women. They find that they cannot emotionally connect with the younger lot, and feel that they are emotionally better compatible with them. Now, if she happens to be married, yet like-minded and willing, who's to say no?
Do these relationships work? Well, sometimes. But only for the third type of men, whose affairs have a solid footing. But then there are several trials and tribulations to go through. Divorce, being one of them! Physical affairs are simply an instance of infidelity. They will stay that way and can never really materialize into something more meaningful.