Ross Geller, played by David Schwimmer, in the popular TV show "F.R.I.E.N.D.S" is a divorcee. One whose wife left him for another woman. The divorce leaves him bitter for some time. But after that, even when he thinks that he is 'so over' the divorce, there are specs of side-effects. Ross cannot trust anyone around the women he loves. He is too shy to approach a woman and once he has her, he is in a rush to get married. The after-effects of a bad break-up or a divorce are long-lasting and not very visible. The right kind of recovery is crucial in order to lead a normal life post divorce.
Divorce recovery support groups are instrumental in bringing about a change in the person's life from bad to better. Firstly, they help the 'victim' understand what they are going through. These groups help in simplifying these emotions, which further help in the reduction of stress caused by them.
Next step would be 'taking control'. Thanks to all the confusion in the mind, divorce victims often lose track of their own lives. This also happens to individuals who are in recovery from a break-up after a long relationship. People lose control over their present, and sometimes their future as well. Work gets neglected and finances are messed up. Often, addiction is also a bad effect of divorce. Taking the reins of your life back in your hands, would lead you to getting rid of the dreadful habit that you are addicted to, be it smoking, alcohol, or drugs.
Another aspect of such groups is that they help to bring back the lost self-esteem, sense of self-worth, and confidence. Just like a burnt child dreads the fire, a divorced individual may start dreading love, relationships, or even simple interaction with the opposite sex. This is something you need to work on. Divorced individuals need to start off fresh with their social lives. Just because a relationship did not workout, does not mean that you are not capable of making other relationships work.
Confrontation and closure are vital, when it comes to dealing with the end of a relationship. One should make sure that all the tension with the ex-partner is sorted out. It is important to forgive yourself and the other person and move on in life. This can be achieved by confronting the person and getting closure in a mature manner. These groups help victims to achieve 'peace' with their past. They prepare them to be in the right state of mind when meeting their ex-partner. This way, the person is confident when he/she actually confronts his/her partner.
These groups also help divorced individuals to get a new group of friends and revamp their social circle. This helps them to bring back enthusiasm into their lives and get back the confidence to interact with people at ease. More so, many of the people that a person may meet at such a place may turn out to be friends. This helps such persons realize that they are no different from others and that relationships are just as much a maze to others as it is to them.
It is vital to be able to get over a past relationship and move on. But, it is indeed, easier said than done. Divorce recovery groups help bring this herculean and difficult task to a convincing finish. All in all, they help people getting back to committing to life even after a failed relationship.