Albeit, middle school is a bit early to be thinking about flirting and wanting to be in a relationship with a boy, but the heart wants what the heart likes. In today's world, there have been instances when people look at flirting in two different manners: an acceptable phase while growing or an uncool behavior. However, flirting with a guy is a mere style to make him realize that a girl is interested in him; perhaps more than being just good friends. I guess there's nothing wrong with thinking like this, but some parents may have other reservations. Maybe they don't want their darling girls to learn about the flirting tactics, which is completely understandable. However, this phase in their lives is inevitable and can't be stalled, no matter how much parents try.
This difference of understanding between young kids and their parents, about the appropriate age to flirt, will keep going. But the best thing to do is understand their situation and age, as it is quite common. So, how can we make this dilemma more acceptable and easygoing for the parents? Along with the first rule we spoke about earlier, there's a hidden rule before that: talking to your mom or dad, whoever you feel comfortable with, about your feelings. And this is one of the most important steps. Why? Because you need their emotional support as well.
The very first time you begin to like a boy in your class or neighborhood, it's a different feeling; something you have never felt or experienced before. This is the reason why your parents or perhaps a responsible elder sibling can help you. Plus, the more you communicate about what is going right or wrong in your "love life", the expectation of better results increases. Being honest and open about your feelings will only make your parents trust you even more.
Flirting is an Art
Now that we got the important "instructions" out of the way, we can go deeper into the topic and look at some tips. As innocent as flirting is, it can be "oh-so cute". Although I don't have a younger sister, I would've loved to talk to her about this and help her in any possible way. Even though I can't change my wish, that doesn't mean you can't. If you keep finding yourself wanting to talk to this particular boy in class, feel like doodling his name in your notebook, or keep whispering to your friends about him, then sweetheart, you have a crush on him. And it is very natural.
At this point in your life, whatever your feelings are for a boy, they are not wrong. It's a natural stage in life and everyone should experience it to the fullest. So if you're having any kind of inhibitions about this, then I'd say "don't". Be happy that you were few of those lucky girls who got to feel like this. Not everyone is lucky in love, but if you have developed such strong feelings for someone, it's nothing short of beautiful. And as for learning how to flirt with a guy over text or in person, why not we go over some useful tips.
Tip #1 ~ What to Wear
Wear clean clothes everyday and look pretty. But with pretty I don't mean wear makeup or anything. No; I mean shower daily, comb your hair, apply deodorant, iron your clothes, and look neat. You need to feel comfortable before you can make anyone believe you are. Although wearing makeup at this young age is generally not accepted by parents, but you can ask for their permission for shiny lip balm. Add accessories to your clothes like clips, colorful scrunchies, headbands, earrings, bracelets, and shoes. Even though you are not too keen on getting all dolled up for someone, that's fine. What should be the focus here is to be presentable; and that doesn't have to be altering yourself completely.
Tip #2 ~ How to Greet
Whenever you see him in school or at the mall, talk to him nicely. Don't avoid him and start hiding behind every pillar. He will like that you came to him and made conversation. And whenever you don't have time to stop and chit chat, just give him the best smile of yours and wave hello. But don't always run up to him when he's alone or available to talk. Give him some opportunities to come and speak with you. And when he does, be more confident about yourself and the fact that he does like you.
Tip #3 ~ What to Say
Flirt with him over text. While sending a text message, keep conversations simple, not too complicated. Don't talk to him only about school or homework, but bring in something about yourself, your hobbies and stuff. Ask questions about him as well; get to know him more. Who knows, while using these tips, you can find some things that are common between you two, like a sport, food, cartoons, movies, songs, or actors. It's worth a shot. What do you have to lose? In the meantime, you might just get to know him a bit more intimately.
Tip #4 ~ Who You Are
For our last tip, I would like to talk about something very crucial. Many a time, I have seen girls, regardless of age, changing themselves too much for a boy. You are a unique individual and don't have the need to alter yourself for anyone. Love isn't about molding yourself or someone else into what you think is right. A person should be liked for who they really are. We were not made equally and that shows from the kind of person we are in reality. Whether you are silly, smart, tomboyish, or a kid at heart, there is no excuse for giving up on yourself.
If the guy likes you, he will pay more attention and like you for you. Guys have a horrible way of expressing their feelings. It's a bit different from girls and that might be something you will have to deal with. Finally, don't be something you're not, and that's an important tip. Remember, the more you change for someone, the more they will expect from you. Making small sacrifices here and there is fine, but losing your identity is never satisfactory.