School boys out there, are you focusing on your academics or just dreaming about the cute girl in your class, who is so much your object of desire that you have reached here, in a desperate attempt to find ways to woo her? Although middle school is way too early to think about girlfriends or relationships, there is no harm in some healthy flirting and enjoying the fun, excitement, and thrill of having a girlfriend. All you middle school boys wondering if it is really possible, read further to discover the truth.
Points to remember
- You're still in a growing phase and you still need to learn a lot about life. Avoid forming any notions about girls or relationships based on movies, as they aren't always true.
- Never get distracted from your academic or career goals because of relationship issues in middle school.
- This is not the time to plan your future love life, so don't be so serious about everything. The older you get, the better you'll understand yourself and girls.
- Spend time with your family and friends instead of day dreaming about her. Inculcate healthy hobbies.
Middle School and Flirting
So, you have spotted the girl you're very much interested in and you're wondering if she can be your girlfriend. She is really sweet and you're all gung-ho about her beauty, sense of humor, the way she carries herself, and what not. She is your biggest crush ever. But you're Mr. Shy, running away from her and hardly saying anything, except a little thank you when she helps you in the class. Your heart accelerates like an F1 car the moment you see her nearing you. Your mind, though may be the smartest in a Math class, loses its tranquility and you just fall short of words to say to her. She comes like a fragrant breeze and leaves you shaking you to the core. Of late, you have started studying hard to impress her or have tried to participate in sports and other activities in an attempt to woo her. Well boys, these are some perfect signs of puppy love, and believe me that we all have been through it at some or the other point in our school life. But, this doesn't necessarily mean you're ready for a serious or perhaps even a normal relationship. Just focus on the above tips; they must be your first priority. Now, focus on some flirty ways to woo her.
You should not think much about "what is love" or "am I in love with her". You will be told by seniors that it is infatuation (or puppy love), but you won't understand it now. So, better focus on the present moment. Being friends with the girl you're interested in is very important. Don't be shy to talk to her. Girls like guys who're expressive and carry out interesting conversations. Now, in middle school, don't expect yourself to have mastered the art of oration. Just become friends with her, hang out with her, accompany her to canteen, and make her feel like she is important to you.
Girls in middle school, just like you guys, are not mature enough to understand what to look for in a guy. Just like you, like her cute ways of talking to you, completing assignments on time, being punctual and disciplined, she also looks for guys who're sincere, studious, as well as sporty. They look for intelligent boys who understand the value of things. Reckless boys fail in this field. You have to be careful with the way you talk and behave when she is around. Dress simple and appear presentable. Not only help her in assignments, but also help her to participate in games and activities. Talk to her about her family members, pets, likes, and dislikes. Show her that you're interested in her and a good rapport will establish gradually.
Be a Performer
If you're good in studies, just perform exceptionally. If you're a basketball freak, go out on the field and prove your skills. Whatever you're best at, just polish that skill more. School girls get impressed by your classroom performance as well as sports activities. The more you improve yourself, better are the chances of her coming closer to you.
Healthy doses of flirting, like surprising her by giving chocolates, leaving flowers on her desk, making her smile, cracking jokes, singing or dancing for her, and smiling exude confidence. Remember that you can't use all the typical flirting techniques, as you're very young.
Lastly, to get a girl to like you in middle school, it is essential for you to be yourself. Don't try to act over smart, as you won't be able to fake it for a long time. Be yourself and be honest, as these attributes will be cherished by her. Just enjoy the experience and have fun!