You can’t really make someone come back to you, if they never want to return. But if you feel that things can look up, read the LoveBondings article for some helpful advice on how to get your ex boyfriend back.
Life is never easy and when it comes to the matters of the heart, things could seem far more than simple. Love is one thing that we keep falling for, wound in its trap, and find, either endless happiness or sorrow. But nonetheless, we always muster the courage and desire to get back in the game whenever possible. When happy endings are bound to happen, nothing makes the heart jump up and down with joy. On the other hand, not every love sees the light of the day and for whatever reason that may be, it hurts like anything. Relationships are not easy and love is the most complicating factor to ruin everything that’s been going right. A sour relationship is what brings the unforeseen storm that keeps revolving around us with no glimpse of an end.
When you lose the one, you can’t help but make silly choices and threaten to mess things up, more than they already have. If you really love him and want him back, not just because you are jealous, lonely, or desperate to be in a relationship again, there is something you can do. And I am here to help you know how to win him back.
Get Your Ex Back When He Broke Up With You
The most important thing to know while fixing or mending a broken relationship is that you need to act fast. After the breakup, don’t wait for a month or two to start talking to him. Maybe he’s not taking your calls or is replying to your email and text messages. But you need to get through to him and let him know that there are some things you wish to speak to him about.
Clear the Misunderstandings
Did you two have a fight or disagreement that was the cause of the breakup? Do you still have things to clear out between the two of you? Then do it. Maybe he is angry with you about something and has some misunderstandings that are keeping him from you. Open a dialog; tell him that the fight/argument which you had, they cannot be more important or crucial to have separated you two. Give him a chance to say what’s on his mind as well. But try to stay away from another argument. Don’t blame him or take the entire blame of the breakup onto yourself. You want to make him realize that you still have feelings for him and that you two can work together to bring that love and trust back in your relationship.
His Dating Situation
If you had a good, long relationship with him in the past, then remember this – he may not be completely ready to date anyone else. That is only for a while and this is when you make your move. Chances are that even he is missing you but due to what happened, he may be confused as to what he can do. Take this chance to apologize to him and also remind him of the wonderful times you’ve spent together. Be strong when you speak to him and show this new look/attitude of yours.
Now on the other hand, he may be showing interest in someone else and has perhaps, starting seeing someone else. Don’t panic. It’s far too soon for him to be serious about this girl and you can swoop in. If you want to know how to get your ex back when he has a new girlfriend, then bump into them out somewhere (but don’t do this way too often or else you might look like a stalker). Make this chance encounter as if he was the one who bumped into you and not the other way round. Seem confident, calm, poised, and composed. No desperate measures are required here and you don’t need to be rude or mean to the girl. Be nice to them but don’t forget to flirt with him lightly. Walk away and then call him later in the day, when he is alone, to speak to him. After bumping into you earlier, he will be thinking about you.
There are some pitfalls you need to stay away from. I know that you may not be very keen on following these suggestions, but in the long run, they will help.
- call him every now and then. Give him space to think.
- make him feel sorry or take pity on you.
- follow him everywhere he goes.
- keep apologizing for everything that happened.
- make a promise that you will change instantly.
- tell him that you “love him” or “miss him” every chance you get.
You want him back, that’s certain. But that doesn’t mean that you need to look desperate and needy in the process. There’s no need to push him into making a decision at the moment. A guy will always run away from girls who keep pushing them and want to make a desperate attempt to get back together. Calm down, chill, and take the situation very slowly. Keep a cool head. You will need it.
As I already mentioned earlier, if you want to follow the suggestions, do them for the right reasons. And if you feel that he is worth every touch methods you are taking right now, then go for it. There’s no turning back for the love of your life.