Tara had a huge crush on Trevor since the first day they met. She knew in her heart that he was the perfect guy for her. He smiled at her from across the class everyday! After every lecture, he made his way through the crowd just to accompany her to the cafeteria for lunch, where they talked. Man did they talk! They were totally comfortable in each other's company. They could be themselves without having to worry about being judged. Tara knew she'd fallen for him, fallen bad. She also had a feeling that he liked her too. But she couldn't understand why he hadn't asked her out yet. One of Trevor's friends told her that he did like her but wasn't sure if she liked him back, and THAT was why he wasn't asking her out. "Jeez!" Tara thought to herself and decided to take matters into her own hands. She went straight to her girlfriends to ask them for some tips on she could let him know that she was interested in him. Here's a snapshot of what she learned.
Are you in a similar situation? Where you want your friendship to evolve into 'something more'? You want him to make the first move, and so you're thinking about how you can let him know you're interested in him so that he can make his move fearlessly (for lack of a better word)? Given below are some excellent tips that you can read and follow if you like.
Let Him Know You're Interested
It's extremely frustrating when you like a guy, he's giving you signals that he likes you, but he won't do anything about it. He could be puckering up the courage to ask you out. So, in the meantime, why don't you give him a little help by using ways to tell him that you like him. Read below and try these tips out.
A smile is the best way to tell a guy that you're interested in him. Dazzle him with a smile whenever you see him. It'll make him feel special. It'll let him know that just being in his presence makes you happy. A smile has always been one of the best tools that you, as a girl, can use to tell a guy that she likes him.
When he's sad, cheer him up with a smile, when he's happy, smile along with him. Nothing works better, trust me. But, for heaven's sake don't keep smiling for no apparent reason. He might get a totally different impression (if you know what I mean). What will work even better is if you can make him laugh!
Use your Eyes
If you're in a group, maintain eye contact with him for a while, maybe a whole minute, and then look away. When you look back at him (oh, I'm sure you will), if he's still looking at you, then it's one of the signs that he's into you. Guys are suckers when it comes to girls' eyes, so use yours shamelessly to let him know that you want him!
Flirt... a Lot
Flirting is fun! Period! How else are you planning to tell him that you're interested, if you're not going to flirt with him? Here are some flirting tips. Be nice to him, give him compliments, help him when he needs it. The age-old 'batting of eyelids' is a classic routine in the flirting game. May sound cheesy, but let's face it, we've all done it at least once.
Now, I don't mean bat them like you've got a twitch. Subtlety is the key. Playing a damsel in distress can also work sometimes. Just make sure he is indeed your knight in shining armor, or all your efforts will go in vain.
If you're sitting across each other, your legs will automatically cross themselves to the side he's sitting (some sort of default female mechanism apparently). Find excuses to touch him. Just don't scare him off by being extra touchy-feely. He'll get a wrong impression.
Have Real Conversations
It will show him that you cared enough to find out about something that he's passionate about. If not, then discuss any common interests that you both may share. It'll be fun! This is one of the best ways to get a guy to like you. And, you can also gauge if you guys have the same wavelengths, which in turn, will help your relationship in the future.
Tease Him a Bit
He may get bored of you constantly showering praises on him. Try something refreshingly different. If you get to know some funny or embarrassing incident about him, tease him about it. Pull his leg for some of his peculiar habits. Don't overdo it. He might take it too seriously and get offended. And that's the last thing you want! If he takes it sportingly and teases you back, then it's a sure sign he likes you.
If none of the above tips work, then your last option could be to work up the courage, swallow any fear and self doubt that you have, and go and tell him how you feel. Worse comes to worst, he'll say he doesn't feel the same way. But at least you'll have the mental satisfaction of having tried your best. So stop worrying about whether he likes you or not? Just go get him girl!