I don't want no fly guy, I just want a shy guy! That's what I want, yeah... You know what I want yeah...!
- Shy Guy, Diana King
- Shy Guy, Diana King
Every woman is born with the notions about man as the pursuer and she, the object of his attraction (related to some knight and princess stuff)! So after much waiting with your fingers crossed, you found that perfect knight - Oops! I mean guy - for you; yet sadly, he just does not seem that interested in you! In fact, he seems to be avoiding you! Moreover he is actually more friendly with your best friend than you. Yet, you find him staring dreamily at you so often and then looking away as you catch him watching you.
Well well well... I know how frustrating that is. But trust me, it is actually okay, since your dream guy just happens to belong to the rather large population of shy guys (Aaah! Now you get it... Awww!) So this means that the guy is attracted to you but is just not able to make the right move. So what do you do about the classic "man pursuing woman" part?
There are some men who are naturally flirty (that's just a nicer way of saying imposing, or sometimes aggressive); not only you but the entire world would know when he falls head over heels for you! In contrast to that, there are these shy guys who seem to wait an eternity to even talk to you. He is not going to tell you himself, and you cannot seem to be able to wait for him to come out of his shell! So how do you know if the guy actually likes you? Or rather how to tell if a SHY guy likes you? Well, here are some tell tale signs that you can watch out for.
Signs to Tell if a Guy Likes You
1. The Body Language
If the guy has fallen for you, then his body language would certainly show it. You will find him sitting and standing close to you and most of the time leaning towards you. A true test of finding out if he is interested is, to lightly touch his arm while having a conversation. If he is taken aback and even goes as far as pulling away his arm, do not misinterpret him. In fact, he flinched just because the smallest touch from you caused a big reaction. Some of the guys even blush when they are around the girl they like. (That ones a keeper, ladies! Don't let him go!)
2. The Look
Watch out for that look, that can betray the calm exterior of a shy guy. Remember that all-sweeping-look, as his eyes look at you from head to toes, followed by his eyes lingering on yours. However, it is probable that even if a shy guy does make eye contact, he will not be able to sustain it for long and just glance away. The looking away part is about feeling awkward about being caught in the act! It is temporary of course, as he will look at you again, when he thinks you are not looking!
3. The Touch
Most of the time, when a guy is interested in you, he might subtly touch you by either putting his hand on your arm when he laughs or NOT moving away when his leg accidentally brushes against yours. He may even hug you for small things; the hug will make you wonder "Huh? What was that for/about?" Basically he wants to get close, but doesn't really know how! So he will keep finding reasons and ways in which he can make physical contact.
4. The Shaky Legs
Nervous laughs, sweaty palms, deep breaths, fidgeting, rubbing the back of his head, neck, shuffling of feet, not knowing what to do with his hands (should he place it on the wall beside you, should he put his hand in his pocket, back pocket, front pocket?)... these are all signs of nervousness brought up on him by you! Although, most of the time he can talk very well with others, you may find him at loss of words around you. If he fumbles, gets the words mixed up, "ummm"s and "uh"s a lot, he is just to smitten to be able to talk.
5. The Things You Like
A sure sign that he likes you is when he suddenly starts showing interest in the things you like; he wants to know the music you are listening to, the places you hangout at, the movies you like to watch, the books you like to read. He wants to know your favorite color, whether you like dogs or not, whether you support the LA Lakers or the Charlotte Bobcats. (Sadly, though, this does not apply to shopping!)
6. The "Planned" Coincidence
So you hit the mall and walk into your favorite brand-store, on a weekday no less because you canceled your gym class and had some time to kill. You pick the stuff you want, turn around, and voila! He is right there in front of you. Suddenly his face goes red; a nervous "Hi!" (complete with the rubbing-the-back-of-the-head) and he is asking if you want to hangout. Too much of a coincidence, isn't it? Well, maybe it isn't a coincidence after all! If you suddenly find yourself bumping into the guy at the mall, at the coffee shop, in the parking lot, he definitely likes you! He has been asking people about your, or he has been paying attention to where you are going and at what time. Of course, this is different from stalking, because this isn't secretive, he just wants to make it look natural, and not like he asked around!
It is pretty easy to tell if a guy likes you - he will most definitely NOT be able to hide it. If however, he is not being sincere and only being pushy, you are better off such a guy; no matter what a stud he may be to look at. So make sure to remember these tips the next time your shy guy is around you, and enjoy the (secret) attention!