Warm, friendly, and affirmative by nature, ISFJ’s are really good at establishing long-lasting bonds with people they are compatible with. Read this post to know more about the ISFJ relationship compatibility with other personality types.
Not all of us can do great things. But we can do small things with great love.
― Mother Teresa (an ISFJ)
ISFJs have immensely strong feelings deep inside them when it comes to romantic relationships. However, they do not easily express them unless there is a valid reason to do so. They are very warm and giving, and look for deep intimate bonds. They are reluctant towards casual flings and feel positive about long-lasting relationships which they can nurture and hold on to.
People belonging to this personality consider family above everything and never hesitate to fulfill the expectations of their loved ones. They make ideal parents and provide all the love and care their child or children deserve. Also, they make it a point to induce good values into their children with a vision to transform them into well-mannered and responsible adults.
The letters ISFJ according to the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator stand for:
I – Introvert
S – Sensing
F – Feeling
J – Judging
Compatibility with Other Personality Types
The Ideal Pair
From table data it is quite evident that the ideal partner for an ISFJ is either an ESTP or an ESFP. This is so because of the following factors.
✭ An ISFJ likes the bubbly and expressive nature of the extrovert partner. Whereas, the partner appreciates the ISFJ’s listening ear, and his/her patience and calm demeanor.
✭ Being a sensing-sensing pair, they are very practical and realistic when it comes to day-to-day living. This is essential in the long term and maintains harmony between the pair enabling them to understand each other easily.
✭ The feeling aspect in the ISFJ’s personality could compliment to either feeling or thinking aspect in the partner. In the former, both partners are easily able to express their love, warmth, and concern towards each other. In the latter, opposites attract; the thinking partner is attracted towards the warmth and compassion that the feeling partner has to provide, whereas the feeling partner likes the objective and thoughtful approach of the thinking partner.
✭ Finally, the judging-perceiving factor does also go well between the two. The judging partner mostly makes the day-to-day decisions like managing finances, deciding on weekend plans, or deciding over which restaurant to eat. The perceiving partners prefer keeping their options open and respect their partners for making their lives organized and stable by making thoughtful decisions.
✘ ISFJs don’t really compliment partners with the intuitive aspect as can be seen from the table. Although, they adore the intuitive partner’s poetic, imaginative, and futuristic way of thinking in the beginning; they may find it hard to talk over such fantastic concepts, as they are more concerned with ‘what is happening’ than ‘what could happen’.
✘ They can tolerate both thinking or feeling partners as said earlier, hence this aspect doesn’t really contradict when it comes to compatibility. Similarly, they can cope easily with both, judging or perceiving partners. However, in case both have the judging aspect in their personality, both would participate in decision-making; clashes could emerge if the decisions made by both contradict. To avoid this one of the two could step back and with due respect accept the partner’s decision.
✘ The completely incompatible types include INFP, ENFP, INFJ, and ENFJ. Also, INTP and ENTP have very little likelihood to work well with ISFJs.
Dating an ISFJ
Here are some tips which could be useful when dating an ISFJ personality type.
✔ Date an ISFJ only and only if you’re very serious about him/her, and intend for a lasting relationship.
✔ ISFJs are very shy and tend to repress their feelings from the outside world. When dating such a person try to make him/her open up to you and express his/her feelings. This could be achieved by gradually building trust and confidence for you in him/her.
✔ Share the happenings of your day with him/her and don’t forget to ask about his/her day. They like people who are concerned about them.
✔ Express your appreciation for him/her verbally telling them how much they do to keep the relationship going, but don’t expect them to do the same. They have other ways to show their appreciation for you.
✔ Spend quality time with them even if it’s just half an hour of the day. Talk a lot to them; they adore people who can very easily share things on their mind.
✔ ISFJs are extremely altruistic and selfless and would do things to make others happy. Try doing things that make them happy; could be anything from a small gift to a sweet kiss.
By now you would be quite clear about the type of relationship ISFJs prefer to have. You could also refer to the general personality traits of an ISFJ to understand them even better.
Disclaimer: The above guidelines are only meant for informative purposes and are completely based on common observations and research. We do not intend to affront or oppose any person’s relationship preferences.