Undoubtedly, we all find our happiness in different ways. Whether it’s through quality time, romantic nights out, gift giving, or even intimate touch. Love can be found in many ways, but a good foundation to build from are the three necessities to a happy relationship: love, joy, peace.
These terms may seem simple; however, they can help to improve your relationship drastically when applied to your life. So for this article, we’re going to go over what exactly they mean in terms of your relationship and why they are necessary.
Love, Joy, Peace Overview
1. Love – Put yourself first
The first of the 3 is love. Perhaps it goes without saying, without love, there can be no relationship. But when we say love, we don’t mean the materialistic gifts or even those 3 simple words. We mean passionate and loyal love. A love that would do anything for their partner and that will never give up on them.
And honestly, in order to find this love and happiness in a relationship, you must first learn to love yourself. That means do not waste your time on hookups, or spend time with someone you know is only temporary. Look for the love that you deserve, even if it takes longer. When you find someone who’s happiness lights up your world, you will know you’ve found the right one.
For more information on how to love yourself before someone else, check out medium.com’s article, “When You Love Yourself First, Life Will Take Care of the Rest.”
2. Joy – Finding balance
Next on the list is joy. While this term can be taken many ways, in terms of creating a strong relationship, joy refers to bringing each other joy. While there are many ways to do this, a good example is to spend time doing something your partner enjoys and vice versa. For example, if your partner loves musicals and you aren’t the biggest fan, step out of your comfort zone for them and give it a shot to spend time doing something they love. Even if it isn’t your favorite way to spend your time, sharing in something that is important to your partner is essential to making their needs feel valid. Not to mention, this contributes to the happiness and health of your relationship overall.
3. Peace – Be each other’s peace
And lastly, to make a relationship truly work, you have to be each other’s peace. Of course, all couples have arguments and disagreements, but it’s important to not let these become a regular thing. When we say be each other’s peace, we mean be the person that your partner wants to go to when they are sad, tired, or lonely. Be the person they want to turn to when they need a shoulder to cry on or when they need to vent. Don’t let pride get in the way of your relationship to the point where don’t want to turn to each other. Be their peace in a world of chaos and who they want to come home to everyday. If you work to do this, your relationship will certainly last a lifetime.
To help you learn if you’ve found true love or not, be sure to check out our article, “True Love: What it is, What is it not, and 3 Tips to Finding it,” for helpful insight.
While there are many different aspects to making a relationship work, the 3 mentioned above (love, joy, peace) are key for all couples to incorporate into their relationship. And while it may not always be perfect, if you remember the 3 terms above in hard times, it can save you a mess of turmoil. Above all else, love is patient, love is never rushed, and love is never easy. Remember, you are human, so don’t beat yourself up if these 3 keys aren’t always prevalent in your love. However, striving to bring them into your romantic world every day will always help to create a better future.
Similarly, learning your love language can help you to find lover easier. Check out our article, “The 5 Love Languages Quiz” for more information.