Even though there are no definite rules and regulations regarding dating and relationships, there are a few guidelines and etiquette that men and women must follow. Elaborated in this LoveBondings article are some pointers for those who are anticipating their second date, and want it to go well.
When it comes to dating and relationships, you should always go with the flow. See where the things are and then take the right action at the right time so that you do not miss the moment. However, not all of us are so sharp and well versed with the dating game, so, given below are a few guidelines that will help you out.
Dating Etiquette for Women
Make Him Wait
Usually punctuality is very important. But, for your second date, it is advisable to arrive a couple of minutes late. You might be wondering why you have to make him wait, when all you have been thinking about since the first date is him? Well, think about it, you have spent hours shopping for the perfect dress, so that you look amazing; you would want him to appreciate the way you look right? You would want your date to be completely mesmerized by you, as you walk towards him (flaunting your new outfit), walking like you are modeling the dress. He would not be able to take his eyes off you!
Be Approachable and Pleasant
Another tip is to act very approachable and pleasant. If you come across as somebody who is so full of herself or is too pompous, the guy will be put off. So, be approachable and sweet, if you want to floor the guy. Flirt with him a little and smile when you talk to him. Be comfortable around him and make him feel the same with you.
Keep the Conversation Flowing
Always keep the conversation flowing smoothly. Avoid controversial topics that will result in difference of opinion. Listen to him when he is talking about something, do not cut him off and start talking about something of your choice. Apart from that being bad manners, it is a major turn off. Listen to what he has to say and contribute to the conversation. The second date is about knowing the person better and trying to gauge whether you two are compatible or not. So, be attentive and observant during the conversation.
Avoid Being Touchy and Emotional
Girls and guys are both sensitive in their own way, but men take time to open up. Most guys are not comfortable when women display too much emotions, especially if they barely know you. So avoid any kind of emotional topics such as your previous relationships, some hardships that you had to face in life, etc.
No Physical Intimacy
Even if you are attracted to the guy to no end and have been dreaming about kissing him for a very long time, do not initiate getting physically intimate on the second date itself. Wait for a few dates, till you feel some kind of emotional bond building between you two, before you start a physical relationship.
Dating Rules for Men
Choose an Interesting Place
All women like to be wooed. So, choose the meeting place very carefully. A romantic set-up such as a candlelight dinner at an open air restaurant, museum (if she enjoys art and history), a sporting event (if the girl is sporty and adventurous) are some of the interesting options you can look into. Choose a unique place for your date. The more pains you take in arranging the date, the more your girl will be interested.
Do Not Get Physical
If you are looking for a long-term relationship, avoid getting physical with the girl. Of course, mild flirting, sharing jokes, and holding hands is allowed. However, beyond this, talking dirty or kissing, even if you desperately want to, should be avoided. It would be nice though if you kiss her goodbye on the cheek. She will respect for it.
All women love to be flattered so, praise her beauty, dress, smile, laugh, and everything under the sun. Most importantly, be genuine when you compliment her. Believe me, no woman can ever resist admiration and that too from the man she likes (yes, she does like you! She agreed for the second date, didn’t she?). Do not flatter her every second of your date, space it out. For example, when you greet her, tell her she looks beautiful or that the perfume she is wearing is amazing. Girls like small things like that. Remember to not go over the top with the compliments, ’cause she may not like it at all.
Be Chivalrous and Caring
I know it is the time of women liberation, but every woman likes it when the guy she is with pulls out her chair or opens the door for her. Make her feel that she is very important to you and that you care for her well-being. And very soon, you will be rewarded.
Besides these rules, other important tips that you should keep in mind are – let the man pay for the date (but do not assume that he is going to pay, so always offer to split the bill), do not introduce him/her to your family or friends, and understand that it is only a second date. For a relationship to get formed, a lot more time is needed. So when you go on a date, keep an open mind and have fun.