He loves me, he loves me not, he loves me, or maybe not. Sigh! Head-over-heels in love with a guy, but can’t figure out if his heart skips a beat when he sees you as well? Well, then it’s time to take a reality check!
Oh that beautiful feeling when you really like someone! Just thinking about him makes butterflies flutter in your stomach; you re-read his one text message twenty times; those stolen glances; making excuses to talk to him, to see him. Often, girls tend to go that extra mile for a guy they have feelings for. From dressing up, to noticing small things about him and keeping them in mind, or doing stuff to make him happy, they try it all. How can I say for sure? Been there, done that. So have you? And still find yourself staring at the phone, waiting for him to call? You feel like he is not making enough effort to get to know you, or isn’t appreciating what you do for him? Well, then let’s face it girl! You need the man to be equally interested in you to have a healthy relationship. Here are some signs that will help you understand whether the guy is probably interested in you or not. So brace yourself and read these to decide if you’re heading down the wrong path.
Maybe He’s Just Not That Into You
Gigi:Maybe his grandma died or maybe he lost my number or is out of town or got hit by a cab..
Alex: Or maybe he is not interested in seeing you again.
These lines are from the movie ‘He’s Just Not That Into You’, which is actually based on the book by the same name, by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo, dealing with relationships and how women often misinterpret their romantic interest’s actions and words. Decoding a guy’s behavior is ideally no rocket science, and his actions usually speak volume
I’m Busy. Umm. With My PlayStation.
When you like someone, ideally, you want to spend all the possible free time together. But in your case, you are the one always making plans, and all he does is make excuses to not show up… not quite ideal, right? Once, twice, a guy can surely not be busy just about every time you talk about getting together. If he really likes you, a guy should be thrilled that you want to spend time with him, as it will give you both a chance to get to know each other better. However, if after repeated attempts from your end, he still does not seem to be reciprocating the enthusiasm to see you, he’s just not worth it, babe!
My Phone’s Battery Died. Yeah Right!
So you guys have exchanged numbers already? Good news. He takes hours to reply and probably days to call back? Not-so-good news. You might say, maybe he’s busy with something. I say, it’s not about being busy, it’s about priorities.
If the only time he calls you is to return your calls, and you are the only one initiating conversation, be alarmed. Here’s what you can do, try not getting in touch with him for a few days, and see what happens. If he cares, he’ll definitely wonder what’s up with you and try to get in touch. And if not, just too bad for him.
You’re My Nicest Girl ‘Space’ Friend.
Damn that space between a girlfriend and a girl friend! I don’t even need to talk about how annoying it is when your crush keeps referring to you as a very good friend. It’s almost like he is constantly reminding himself and you that there is nothing more between you guys.
If he says he values the friendship too much etcetera etcetera, you have to stop and reconsider the situation, my friend. If he likes you, he will want to be with you, and more than just as friends. And if he cannot see you as his special someone, you’ve heard of the existence of other fish in the pond, the much better ones, right?
Is That Your Friend? She’s Hot.
Whether they are single or committed, men check out other women, and that’s a well established fact. But when a guy is really into you, ignoring his occasional glances in other directions, he has his eyes exclusively on you.
If he tells you about his other female friends, great! It goes to show that he wants you to know about him and his personal life. But if he constantly looks at other women and talks openly about dating someone else, it’s quite a clear sign that he is not going to be the one bringing you flowers and gifts to profess his love.
Oh, It’s Your Birthday Today?
You know his birthday, number, schedule, in addition to most of his hangouts and even favorite foods. And how do you think he would score on a quiz about you? Agreed, men are known to be not-so-great with birthdays and anniversaries, but when you really like someone, you want to know everything there is to know about that person. How can a guy be interested in you if he is not interested in getting to know you better?
Even basic things like asking about how your day was or what you did that evening, show that he cares. And if he isn’t making an effort with small gestures like these, then maybe it’s time to move on, and be with someone who genuinely cares.
Shhh. I’ll Keep You My Secret.
You like him so much that you cannot seem to stop talking about just how amazing he is, and how you cannot wait to see him. All your friends know everything there is to know about him, and have heard of every text message or interaction between the two of you, and are so eager to meet him. But every time you suggest that he comes and chills with your friends and you, he seems to have something else that needs to be done.
Sure enough, you have heard of his friends and what he did with them over the weekend, but have you ever met any of them? No? When you offer to go along and watch the games with him and his buddies, does he give you vague reasons and avoid? That should be your red light on the trouble meter. If you’re the one, a guy will not miss a chance to show you off, and if you’re not the one, he will, well, just play hide and seek.
Gentleman? Not Quite.
Chivalry in a man is quite a turn-on for most women, and it just goes to show that he respects you. You are a beautiful, independent woman; but that does not have to stop him from at least offering to pay when you go out. Heard of the age-old cliché, if a guy likes you, he will make fun of you? Yeah, this one’s true. But there is a difference between making light fun of you and saying something mean or offensive. Ignorance is another strong sign that a guy may not be quite into a girl.
To share a romantic bond, it is important for two people to respect each other’s values and ideas. If this is not really the case with you and him, forget him, honey! Make efforts for someone who loves you and respects you for who you are.
These are some signs that may probably help you to get a better picture of where you stand when it comes to a romantic thing between you and the guy. If he isn’t doing any of the above, then you’ve just got to give things some time. If some of these signs relate to his attitude, well, then it’s time to focus on the other fish. And always remember what Marilyn Monroe said, “A wise girl kisses, but doesn’t love, listens but doesn’t believe, and leaves before she is left”.