There is a huge difference between the psychology of men and women. Women generally kiss when they are overwhelmed by emotions. Guys kiss when they feel passionate about something. You need to understand what a guy wants from a kiss. So, what do men want
? Guys want you to look great all the time. Did you ever ponder, that only girls like compliments? Well, guys are also humans and they have an emotional side too. Never put a guy down.
Along with complimenting him, you can also boost his confidence in certain situations. Guys like to have a companion who is fun. Guys like to talk and want you to listen attentively and treat them with respect. When guys are kissing, oxytocin hormone levels rise in their body, which is why they look for passion
in a kiss.
If you keep these things in mind about guys, the kiss will be more fulfilling and a deeper experience for both of you.
Kissing Tips And Tricks
Now that you understand the way guys feel, use these tips.
Hygiene is the most important kissing tip for girls as your bad breath might repel the guy. Always maintain oral hygiene, and brush your teeth well before a date. If you think you have bad breath, then use a mouthwash after brushing, and carry a small mouthwash bottle in your purse. Always carry some mints in your purse, if you think you are going to be kissing on a date. You can also carry a mild lip balm or gloss with you to moisturize lips.
Always look your best ladies, this is also one of the important kissing tips. Sometimes a spontaneous kiss will be memorable. But always be ready and dress-up pretty. As both of you will be very close to each other while kissing, always smell good and use a mild perfume.
Moisturize Skin & Lips
Moisturize your skin with a good lotion. Exfoliate your lips. You can do this, by scrubbing your lips with a toothbrush and paste. Keep your lips well moisturized and supple, you can do this by using a lip balm. If you like to wear lipstick, always wear one that is light-toned. Keep your make-up light and natural and don't overdo it. Guys don't like too much make-up when they are about to kiss a girl.
If you are going to kiss for the first time, always go slow and be caring. Generally, guys make the first move, but if you have been dating your guy for a while, he would like you to make the first move. Do you have doubts about how to kiss a guy for the first time? Be bold and make the first move. Your guy will probably find it a refreshing change.
Body & Eye Language
Majority of the communication between a pair is non-verbal. So, apart from talking to your guy, use body language and expressions like good posture, gestures, and facial expressions. Eyes are very important and express multiple emotions. When one is looking at somebody affectionately, he or she imagines a triangle, with two points of the triangle, at the eyes and the third point at the lips. Picture this triangle on your partner's face, whenever you want to kiss him. This is an unconscious signal, people send to others, but by using it consciously with your guy, you will have his attention.
Also, if you want him to kiss you, keep looking into his eyes and then look at his lips. This is a very clear signal, and if he desires to kiss you, he will definitely make his move.
A woman can be sensitive all over her body. But guys have specific sensitive areas, that is, the erogenous zones in their lower body. Lips have a lot of nerve endings and therefore are very sensitive. Guys are sensitive on their lips, so if you give your guy a little sexy pout, look at him in a flirtatious manner, and if you just touch his lips lightly with your fingers, he will definitely want to kiss you.
Use Shyness to Tease Him
Shyness can be a big obstruction, if you want to kiss your guy. Guys like being kissed, so do not be shy. But, use shyness to tease him. Guys like that! Also don't tease him for too long or he might lose interest in kissing.
Glasses & Braces
If you or your guy wear glasses, take them off before kissing. If your guy wears braces, do not put pressure on his lips and keep the kiss gentle.
Another important thing is, if any of you is suffering from cold or flu then avoid kissing.
Tips on French Kissing
French kissing is one of the most romantic and sensual of all kisses. It is an extremely impassioned kiss. Thanks to the use of the tongue, which has a very sensitive surface. Here, are the tips on French kissing.
This is a very passionate kiss. To French kiss your guy, move closer to your guy and touch him on his shoulder. Look at his eyes and then at his lips. The guy will tilt his head and lean closer to kiss you. If not, touch him lightly on his lips with your fingers and then move your hand towards the nape of his neck. Play with his hair and brush your lips softly on his lips and start kissing him with your lips. Wait for the guy's response before you use your tongue! You can bite him lightly on his lower lip. When you feel his tongue, gently play with his tongue. To deepen your kiss, caress his back and move closer to his body. End the kiss slowly and gently and again look into his eyes and smile.
It is not necessary for you to use your tongue when French kissing. But remember ladies, guys like passion when it comes to kissing. So, you can try tracing his lips and mouth with your tongue.
Also when kissing passionately, do it in private, so that it's comfortable for both of you. A kiss in several cases can lead to making out. If you are comfortable with your boyfriend and trust him enough then go ahead for a deeper experience, otherwise end the kiss slowly.
If you have been dating your guy for a while, then try this bold technique of kissing. Grab his shirt in one hand and his hair with the other hand and start kissing him. Put your body weight on him and kiss him passionately. You can also bite his lips and use your tongue to deepen your kiss.
All the above tips and techniques will help you learn, how to be a good kisser. But remember, it is not necessary for the situation to be perfect. If you are sitting close enough and you want to check your chemistry with your partner, go ahead and kiss him.
Hot Kissing & Make Out Tips
Some of you might already have kissed many times. However, here are some tips to turn the heat a notch up.
While kissing him set-up a rhythm. There are many ways to do this. You can set the rhythm with the 'in and out motion of tongue' while kissing, to the 'scraping nape of neck up and down'. Or you can 'trace circles on his ear' with your tongue, while 'drawing circles on his thigh' with your fingers.
Mix It Up
For this make out technique you need to get in the flow. You can start by giving him small but slow pecks on his eyes, forehead, temples, cheek, jaw and neck. Then give soft kisses on the lips, on the edges of the lips, in the middle of the lips... Start nibbling on his lips, then soothe it by licking. You can also trace his lip's shape with your tongue. Keep kissing him this way, and while you are kissing him make sure you keep touching his hair, neck, arms, chest, back, etc. You can end such a kiss with small pecks on the lips, and rest your head on his chest after the kiss is over. Ending the kiss this way will make the experience intimate, and give you some time to normalize your breathing!
When he is sitting, straddle his hips and start French kissing him. You can go rough in this kind of kiss, by tugging at his hair or clothes and leaning on his body.
When you think he is not aware of you, for example when he's sleeping or involved with something, then surprise him by kissing him slowly on the lips and slip your hands under his shirt. Guys love when a girl initiates in kissing/making out, when they are not aware of it.
Balance the Passion
It is possible that sometimes one of you might be controlling the kissing or making out, you can shift this. If he is kissing you passionately, then put your body weight on him, pull his hair a bit and nibble him and kiss him hard. If you are kissing him passionately and are in control, then place his hands on your waist/butt, this will turn him on and put him in control.
Unique Ways to Kiss
Trying a different kind of kiss will surprise him, and get him turned on. Also, it will keep things between you guys fresh and playful. Here are some unique ways.
The upside-down kiss is awesome, and very new. When he's sitting on the couch, stand behind the couch and start kissing him on the lips and keep one hand on his chest. Keep alternating by kissing his upper and lower lip, the spidy style!
Cute Eye & Eskimo Kiss
There are many types of kisses that you can try, but two of the cutest are the Eskimo and eye kiss. When you are feeling affectionate towards your partner, peck on his nose or eyes tenderly.
If you have already kissed your guy many times, then surprise him by kissing in some unusual kiss. Plant one on him in a lift, under an umbrella when it's raining, his parent's place, in the bathroom, etc. This will surprise him but pleasantly!
Buy some fruity lipstick or balm. If you can find his favorite fruit and get that flavor lipstick then it's even better. Apply the lipstick/balm and start kissing him on the lips, it will be a new experience.
Here's something fun you can try. Kiss him very slowly on the jaw, then on the eyes, then on a cheek, then on forehead, then ear, then cheek again. Now, go close to his lips but hold back for few seconds and then kiss him on the lips.
Kiss from the Back
If you see he's standing, then hug him from behind, and start pecking him softly on neck and ears. Once he turns around start kissing him on the mouth.
Here's a little secret! 'If you balance your kiss with the right passion and use the above tips, you can have a strong effect on your guy'. Start kissing your guy with enough warmth and love, but also deepen your kiss by showing some passion towards your guy, and he will remember the kiss and the kisser for a long time. So, keep kissing because, as Levende Waters said "A kiss seals two souls for a moment in time.