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Marriage Counseling Questions

Counseling Questions That'll End the Problem, Not Your Marriage

Marriage too needs to be saved sometimes. However, the need of salvaging a marriage can be mitigated with a counseling session before the nuptials. This way you can sort out a lot of conundrum of expectations and anticipations that lead to unnecessary conflict.
Mukta Gaikwad
Last Updated: Dec 09, 2017
And they lived happily ever after...

How all of us wish this was the reality of every marriage! A marriage, just like any other relationship, does have its share of ups and downs. To ease out the creases and get the marriage on a steady plain, the underlying problems of a marital life have to be addressed with maturity. Most couples delay getting professional help to save their marriage, which leads them to an abysmal fall. If visiting a counselor is not possible, take a look at a few questions below to see and understand the vehement undercurrents of your relationship and the direction in which the relationship is headed.

Questions Asked During Marriage Counseling
  • Are you willing to take pre-marriage counseling with me?
  • How are we different?
  • Do you think our differences will create problems in our marriage?
  • Do we handle conflict well?
  • Do you think we have problems in our relationship that we need to deal with before our wedding?
  • Are we both willing to face difficult areas or do we try to avoid conflict?
  • How will we make decisions together?
  • What are your expectations of our sexual relationship?
  • Can we talk about sex?
  • Do you think faith and spirituality important in a marriage?
  • What do you feel about adoption?
  • What is your parenting philosophy?
  • Will one of us stay home after we have children?
  • Do we both know where our important financial documents are located?
  • What are our future plans for purchasing a home?
  • Do you have any outstanding fines or debts?
  • Do you consider going to the movies and having a vacation every year a necessity or a luxury?
  • Have you been in a serious relationship before?
  • What did you learn about yourself?
  • Can you talk openly about everything?
  • Do you want to have a budget?
  • Are you a saver or spender when it comes to money?
  • How would you feel if I want a night out with my friends now and then?
  • Do you believe that we should be doing everything together?
  • Can we each pursue our own interests?
  • How are we going to divide up the household chores?
  • How would you describe yourself?
  • What do you like and dislike about your family?
  • Do you think it is important to be faithful to one another?
  • Why are we getting married?
  • What do we as a couple want out of life?
  • Do you think our relationship will change after we are married?
  • If you wrong someone, will you accept it and apologize?
  • Have you ever been violent in a moment of anger?
  • What is your financial responsibility in the marriage?
  • Do you believe in spanking children? If yes, under what circumstances?
  • Would you send your children to visit their extended family if they lived in another state or country?
  • If you could change one thing (anything!) about me, what would it be?
  • Is there anything about your past that I don't know, but should be aware of?
Finding a marriage counselor who will provide you a professional guidance is also a very important part of marriage counseling. Getting married is like entering a joint venture where both the partners profit from each others' actions and are liable in a case of lapses. An ardent effort, every single day, is the only answer to marriage problems and solutions. Thus the expectations of a marriage have to be agreed upon mutually. If you are still confused about your decision to get married, take your time to figure out the dynamics of a marriage, instead of taking a blind plunge. You get one chance to do it right. So, make a right choice. Good luck!